In this entry of my blog I want to tell you about my angel brave Tobias and his short little life.
Tobias was born in 2003 when I was admitted to Hillingdon Hospital, Tobias was born !0 weeks early weighing just 2lb 13oz.
He was kept in the intensive care part of the Neonatal unit mainly due to his size and so he could be carefully watched and helped to keep warm in a incubator and be fed via a tube in his nose. Other then this he was a healthy little boy who breathed for himself and was very alert.
I was able to hold his and through the holes in the incubator.
On day two I was even allowed to hold him for a short time.
The following five days Tobias remained well and alert. A lot of family and friends visited Tobias many were very surprised at just how tiny a 2lb baby is.
I spent most of my time by Tobias’s side talking to him and holding his hand, he would “spy” on me with one eye closed and the other watching.
I cannot explain just how very special Toby was my love for him was instant and we had own our special bond already.
I was unwell myself following the birth so remained in hospital too.
On the afternoon of day five I was so drained and sleepy I returned to my room to catch a little sleep. I woke up a few hours later and was ready to go back to special care when a midwife told me the baby doctor wanted to speak with me and to remain in my room until the doctor arrived.
It was a late Friday night and I just knew something was wrong; I waited as long as I could before going down to special care to find out what was happening.
I had trouble getting onto the unit because it had been closed due to an emergency. This emergency was Tobias.
I was shown to the parents room and shortly joined by a doctor who told me Tobias was unwell they wasn't sure why but he needed support in breathing and was on cpap, as this point I was worried but understood prem babies struggle sometimes, the doctor then said I should call somebody to be with me, so I called my mum who then brought my brother.
Shortly after they arrived I was able to see Toby for a short time but not touch him, The doctor then took us into the side room and asked for permission to place Tobias on a life support machine, I agreed and told her to do what ever she needed to in order to help him. She said she thought he had a problem in his tummy and was waiting for test results but in the mean while was trying to find a bed for him in another hospital as he might need an operation and while this unit care for very early babies they did not have a surgical unit.
The Doctor later came back telling us Tobias was becoming more unwell and local units wouldn't accept him because he was so unwell. She then told me she didn't think he would make it through the night and did we want a priest to Baptise Toby.
Before I knew it I was standing next to his incubator watching Tobias being baptised with my mother and brother as god parents.
After this we were sent back to the parent’s room to wait. When we were in the parents room every moment felt like hours, there was a video player and a small TV along with some children’s tapes my brother put a tape into the player just for some kind of background noise the video was art attack from ITV I remember it being on throughout the night, I also remember the endless cups of tea I was given, both the above helped a lot and I’ll forever be grateful to my Mum and Brother for their support during these difficult hours.
The doctor came back and my heart dropped I began to cry I thought she was going to tell me he had gone, but she sat next to me taking my hand in hers and told me Tobias had picked up not allot but enough to be accepted by a professor at London's Great Ormond Street hospital for treatment, the Cats team (a special retrieval team) had been dispatched to transfer Toby but there were risks he might not make the transfer.
Everything was a mad rush and Tobias was finally on all of the team’s equipment and ready to go! It was 6.30 am on a sat morning of day six when Tobias was blue light police escorted to Great Ormond Street.
I remember my heart racing and thinking please baby hold on till mummy gets there.
I was also taken back by how very special this little boy was he was having a police car escort, but so thankful and remember how many times I kept saying "thank you, thank you so much".
After a long discharge I, my mum and brother made the journey through central London but we kept getting lost, I became very upset and when I saw a police car drive past I told mum to flash her lights I smashed my hand on the horn (police must of thought I was mad) and they stopped, after explaining it all to them and telling them I just couldn't find the way they told my mum to follow them that they were going to blue light and she was too stay close behind.
They said if mum lost them pull over and they will come back for her. I really could have kissed them! In no time we were there.
To those of you reading this that have never been to Great Ormond street let me explain this, the hospital itself is huge! But the nicest and friendliest of faces welcome you with open arms during a difficult time when your child is unwell.
When we arrived in the intensive care unit Tobias was in theatre they couldn't wait any longer we waiting on intensive care and shortly after the professor came with another doctor and nurse who told me Tobias had Necrotizing-Enterocolitis sadly Toby's bowel had died there was no part which could be saved, Tobias was also now suffering from organ failure there was nothing else they could do.
The only question now was whether to turn off the life support or allowed Toby to die at his own pace.
The hardest thing of my life ever was to tell them to take him off this machine but I wanted his morphine pump left attached to his central line just in case he was in pain, I also asked them to agree that if Tobias started to struggled to breath they would assist him in someway and not just leave him like that.
I was so frightened I wanted to run and run but as Tobias mum I couldn't and I held him in a room full of family and friends on Sat 25th of October 10.15 when he left to find heaven at just six days old.
Tobias on my request was moved back with me to our local hospital that night.
He was washed and dressed by my brave sister and placed in a car seat I carried to the ambulance.
Toby looked like any other newborn just asleep and this broke my heart walking back into our hospital where people knew no different.
If only he was just asleep I kept thinking.
I spent until Monday morning with Tobias, holding him telling him how very loved he was and how sorry I was for letting him down by not carrying him to term and his suffering because of this.
I also told him how proud I was of him and how lucky I was to be his mummy.
I took photos, bathed him with help from nurses had hand and footprints taken and dressed him in a beautiful yellow outfit.
He looked so peaceful.
We were so lucky to be given a room on special care at Hillingdon where I could do the above, (some of which had been done at Great Ormond street too i.e., photos and footprints) It gave me a chance for time alone with Tobias and I ready needed this time but was also comforted by the fact I was only a stone throw from a nurse or midwife if I had questions or needed help.
On the Monday I knew I had to say goodbye forever, Tobias had started to change and I didn’t want to remember him any different with a huge amount of support from nurses I helped get Tobias ready to go to the morgue and I carried him there too, a porter a nurse were going to do this but I didn’t feel it was right, I was Toby’s mum I needed to do this for him.
I had to hand Tobias over to the care of the nurse once we was outside the morgue walking away was the hardest things I ever had to do.
I left and went home to arrange Tobias’s farewell, I arranged two beautiful white horses and a white carriage filled with blue and white balloons and a huge teddy bear to take Tobias to his funeral.
Tobias’s funeral was peaceful and went the way I wanted it to go but just dreadfully sad and painful for everyone there.
Without the support of everyone around me before Tobias’s birth and right up until I had to say goodbye I don’t know how I would have coped.
From the admin staff, cleaners, Our wonderfully skilled yet so caring Doctors and Midwifes and Nurses at both Hillingdon Hospital, London and Great Ormond Street Hospital Thank You so very much you helped us all as a family so very much and I’ll forever be grateful.
To my wonderful family and friends I love you all so dearly you have been the best I could ever have asked for, and I’m forever grateful to each and every one of you for everything you have done for me during this painfully hard time.
R.I.P Little Angel xxxxxxxxx…..
Monday, 28 April 2008
Monday, 21 April 2008
EALING COUNCIL STOLE MY CHILDREN FOR MONEY!!!!
Report for:
INFORMATION
Item Number:
Contains Confidential or Exempt Information
NO
Title
Performance Update 2nd Quarter 2004/05
Responsible Officer
Graeme McDonald
Acting Head of Performance and Scrutiny
Direct Line 020 8825 7485
e-mail: mcdonalg@ealing.gov.uk
Author
Mac Magon
e-mail – magonm@ealing.gov.uk
Direct Line 020 8825 6773
Portfolio
All
For Consideration By
Cabinet
Date to be Considered
14th December 2004
Implementation Date if Not Called In
28th December 2004
Affected Wards
N/A
Area Committees
N/A
Keywords/Index
Performance Management, Performance Indicators (PIs), Local Public Service Agreement (LPSA).
Purpose of Report:
Quarterly reporting of performance indicators provides a clear picture of how the Council is performing during the course of the year and allows more effective reporting of annual performance.
Corporate Board monitors progress to ensure priorities are delivered. Areas where performance is not progressing satisfactorily are highlighted within these quarterly reports for Cabinet.
1.0. Recommended Actions
This report is for information only.
2.0. Indicators identified as high risk or with significant variance
2.1. Services to Individuals
2.1.1. Children’s Social Services.
Percentage of children in care with 3 or more placements. (BV49).
This is a reported as 10.5% against a cumulative target of 8%. Monthly analysis is being undertaken to identify coding errors and ensure correct reporting as well as reviewing operational performance. The aim is to improve and bring this figure down i.e. to have fewer placements of children.
Adoptions of looked after children. (BV163).
At the half year stage there had been 12 adoptions, representing 3.4% of total against a year-end target of 8%. Although below the mid year target of 4%, additional adoptions are expected in the second half of the year. This is due to the creation of a dedicated adoption advisor post. This officer regularly discusses progress with social workers, reviewing officers, guardians and the legal department, and tracks the adoptions of children.
2.1.2. Adult Social Services
Percentage of people receiving a statement of their needs. (BV58).
At the half-year stage this was reported as 35% against a revised target of 50%. This indicator will only consider those people who have been sent a written statement of their needs. Currently, recording is distorted by visits, with notification handed over and telephone calls. Remedial action to analyse the figure has begun. Members of the Adult Services Management Team (ASMT) are visiting each team explaining the necessity for this information to be entered in a usable format onto the system. Within the Older peoples team in central Ealing, a revision exercise has been undertaken to send out statement of needs and to revise the coding on the computer system. These remedial actions have resulted in improved performance which including October, is now at 67%.
2.2. Services to Communities
2.2.1. Environmental Services
The percentage of household waste recycled / composted. (BV82a / b).
The mid year performance for recycling is 11.42%, which is below the target of 20%. Similarly, 3.79% of waste is being composted against the target of 5%. The combined total is just over 15% compared to the challenging target of 25%. There has been a doorstep campaign to raise the level of recycling, made possible through the London Recycling Fund. The service expects to achieve a full year result close to 18%.
2.2.2. Development Control
Percentage of planning applications determined within target. (BV109).
The figures have been recalculated in line with the updated ODPM definition. The amended cumulative figures for the half-year are:-
PI
Half Year
National target
Likelihood to meet target
BVPI 109a - Major
67%
60%
Likely to meet national.
BVPI 109b - Minor
49%
65%
On track to meet national.
BVPI 109c - Other
56%
80%
On track to meet national.
2.3. Human Resources
The number of days / shifts lost to sickness. (BV12).
The number of days / shifts lost due to sickness continues to improve. For the first half of the year the number is 3.98 days against a target of 5 days. This is due to improved absence management as well as seasonal conditions.
2.4. Housing / Environmental Health
The percentage of homes, which are non-decent. (BV184a).
The revised stock condition survey in December 2003 produced a new picture of the condition of the stock when compared to those of the previous survey. It was more wide-ranging and in-depth and revealed a more detailed, less favourable position. At 31/03/04, it was found that 38% of homes were non decent. The half-year figure shows an improvement to 34%, this being within the year-end target of 35.5%.
The percentage change in non-decent homes. (BV184b).
Half-year performance appears very good. From a start figure of 5252 non-decent homes, 654 homes have since been made decent. During this time however, a further 140 are estimated to have become non decent. This equates to a net change of 9.8% against a target of 5.9%.
Following on from the reservations raised against this PI during the recent audit, BV184a/b will be audited as part of the interim audit being programmed.
The length of stay in Bed & Breakfasts and Hostels. (BV183a / b)
The mid year performance is 23 weeks for both B&B and hostels. This is within the target of 38 and 30 weeks respectively. The improvement results from finding temporary homes for families who were residing in B&B and hostel accommodation.
2.3. Business Support
The percentage of invoices paid within 30 days. (BV8)
The performance to date is 62% and below the target of 80%. This is largely due to invoices being forwarded late from services to the central payments section. The Corporate finance section is trying to identify where these delays occur in an effort to improve performance in the next quarter.
3.0. PSA Performance Indicators
3.1. Appendix 1 lists the second quarter performance for those PIs reported quarterly. We met the interim target for PSA 10, Improving the street scene and are on track for achieving the final PSA target. We are on track to meet the 60% enhancement of the final target for PSA 4, Reducing domestic burglary and the sub target for PSA 11a, Increasing physical activity levels for 12 consecutive weeks. We are unlikely to meet the 60% enhancement target for PSA 6, improving the standard of social housing.
3.2. Interim reward
The current PSA agreement ends 31/03/05. Where interim levels of performance have been agreed and achieved, the Government will pay 20% of the grant attributed to that target or sub target a year earlier than that of the main grant, (a potential of £127,160 per interim target achieved). This is treated as a 'payment on account'. The ODPM expects to be able to make payments of performance reward grant on account before 31/03/05 where claims are received by 01/02/05.
Recent analysis indicates we achieved the interim targets and sub targets for the following PIs: - (see Appendix 2).
· PSA 2 - Raising educational achievement of young people in care, the interim target was achieved which earns £127,160.
· PSA 3 – Maximising the contribution adoption can make (sub target with 30% weighting achieved earns £38,148.
· PSA 5 – Reducing deaths / injuries on the road (sub target with 20% weighting achieved earns £25,432.
· PSA 10 - Improving the street scene in Ealing, the interim target was achieved which earns £127,160.
The total interim reward grant earned is £317,900. The maximum available, had all 12 interim targets been met, was £1,525,920. The grant will be split 50% for revenue and 50% for capital expenditure.
3.3. Main reward grant
The main grant will be paid in two equal instalments in the two financial years following the end of the PSA. At Ealing, the PSA ends in March 2005. Therefore, the instalments would be due 2005/06 and 2006/07.
The Performance team is presently meeting with managers to discuss the likelihood of meeting the PSA targets. Based on the reported mid year performance, it is predicted that we will achieve the 60% enhancement target for at least 7 of the PSA PIs. These being:-
· PSA 2 - Raising educational achievement of young people in care.
· PSA 3 - Maximising the contribution adoption can make to providing permanent families for children.
· PSA 4 - Crime - Reducing domestic burglary.
· PSA 5- Road Safety - Reducing deaths and injuries on the roads of Ealing.
· PSA 8 - Increasing the take-up of library services by minority ethnic groups.
· PSA 10 - Street Scene - Improving the street scene throughout Ealing.
· PSA 11 – Increase physical activity.
Should we achieve the minimum 60% of the stretch for each of the above PIs, it will be worth a maximum total of £2,670,360, less the interim payments received in 2004/05. However, 100% achievement will be worth a maximum total of £4,450,600, less the interim payments. The grant will be split 50% for revenue and 50% for capital expenditure.
INFORMATION
Item Number:
Contains Confidential or Exempt Information
NO
Title
Performance Update 2nd Quarter 2004/05
Responsible Officer
Graeme McDonald
Acting Head of Performance and Scrutiny
Direct Line 020 8825 7485
e-mail: mcdonalg@ealing.gov.uk
Author
Mac Magon
e-mail – magonm@ealing.gov.uk
Direct Line 020 8825 6773
Portfolio
All
For Consideration By
Cabinet
Date to be Considered
14th December 2004
Implementation Date if Not Called In
28th December 2004
Affected Wards
N/A
Area Committees
N/A
Keywords/Index
Performance Management, Performance Indicators (PIs), Local Public Service Agreement (LPSA).
Purpose of Report:
Quarterly reporting of performance indicators provides a clear picture of how the Council is performing during the course of the year and allows more effective reporting of annual performance.
Corporate Board monitors progress to ensure priorities are delivered. Areas where performance is not progressing satisfactorily are highlighted within these quarterly reports for Cabinet.
1.0. Recommended Actions
This report is for information only.
2.0. Indicators identified as high risk or with significant variance
2.1. Services to Individuals
2.1.1. Children’s Social Services.
Percentage of children in care with 3 or more placements. (BV49).
This is a reported as 10.5% against a cumulative target of 8%. Monthly analysis is being undertaken to identify coding errors and ensure correct reporting as well as reviewing operational performance. The aim is to improve and bring this figure down i.e. to have fewer placements of children.
Adoptions of looked after children. (BV163).
At the half year stage there had been 12 adoptions, representing 3.4% of total against a year-end target of 8%. Although below the mid year target of 4%, additional adoptions are expected in the second half of the year. This is due to the creation of a dedicated adoption advisor post. This officer regularly discusses progress with social workers, reviewing officers, guardians and the legal department, and tracks the adoptions of children.
2.1.2. Adult Social Services
Percentage of people receiving a statement of their needs. (BV58).
At the half-year stage this was reported as 35% against a revised target of 50%. This indicator will only consider those people who have been sent a written statement of their needs. Currently, recording is distorted by visits, with notification handed over and telephone calls. Remedial action to analyse the figure has begun. Members of the Adult Services Management Team (ASMT) are visiting each team explaining the necessity for this information to be entered in a usable format onto the system. Within the Older peoples team in central Ealing, a revision exercise has been undertaken to send out statement of needs and to revise the coding on the computer system. These remedial actions have resulted in improved performance which including October, is now at 67%.
2.2. Services to Communities
2.2.1. Environmental Services
The percentage of household waste recycled / composted. (BV82a / b).
The mid year performance for recycling is 11.42%, which is below the target of 20%. Similarly, 3.79% of waste is being composted against the target of 5%. The combined total is just over 15% compared to the challenging target of 25%. There has been a doorstep campaign to raise the level of recycling, made possible through the London Recycling Fund. The service expects to achieve a full year result close to 18%.
2.2.2. Development Control
Percentage of planning applications determined within target. (BV109).
The figures have been recalculated in line with the updated ODPM definition. The amended cumulative figures for the half-year are:-
PI
Half Year
National target
Likelihood to meet target
BVPI 109a - Major
67%
60%
Likely to meet national.
BVPI 109b - Minor
49%
65%
On track to meet national.
BVPI 109c - Other
56%
80%
On track to meet national.
2.3. Human Resources
The number of days / shifts lost to sickness. (BV12).
The number of days / shifts lost due to sickness continues to improve. For the first half of the year the number is 3.98 days against a target of 5 days. This is due to improved absence management as well as seasonal conditions.
2.4. Housing / Environmental Health
The percentage of homes, which are non-decent. (BV184a).
The revised stock condition survey in December 2003 produced a new picture of the condition of the stock when compared to those of the previous survey. It was more wide-ranging and in-depth and revealed a more detailed, less favourable position. At 31/03/04, it was found that 38% of homes were non decent. The half-year figure shows an improvement to 34%, this being within the year-end target of 35.5%.
The percentage change in non-decent homes. (BV184b).
Half-year performance appears very good. From a start figure of 5252 non-decent homes, 654 homes have since been made decent. During this time however, a further 140 are estimated to have become non decent. This equates to a net change of 9.8% against a target of 5.9%.
Following on from the reservations raised against this PI during the recent audit, BV184a/b will be audited as part of the interim audit being programmed.
The length of stay in Bed & Breakfasts and Hostels. (BV183a / b)
The mid year performance is 23 weeks for both B&B and hostels. This is within the target of 38 and 30 weeks respectively. The improvement results from finding temporary homes for families who were residing in B&B and hostel accommodation.
2.3. Business Support
The percentage of invoices paid within 30 days. (BV8)
The performance to date is 62% and below the target of 80%. This is largely due to invoices being forwarded late from services to the central payments section. The Corporate finance section is trying to identify where these delays occur in an effort to improve performance in the next quarter.
3.0. PSA Performance Indicators
3.1. Appendix 1 lists the second quarter performance for those PIs reported quarterly. We met the interim target for PSA 10, Improving the street scene and are on track for achieving the final PSA target. We are on track to meet the 60% enhancement of the final target for PSA 4, Reducing domestic burglary and the sub target for PSA 11a, Increasing physical activity levels for 12 consecutive weeks. We are unlikely to meet the 60% enhancement target for PSA 6, improving the standard of social housing.
3.2. Interim reward
The current PSA agreement ends 31/03/05. Where interim levels of performance have been agreed and achieved, the Government will pay 20% of the grant attributed to that target or sub target a year earlier than that of the main grant, (a potential of £127,160 per interim target achieved). This is treated as a 'payment on account'. The ODPM expects to be able to make payments of performance reward grant on account before 31/03/05 where claims are received by 01/02/05.
Recent analysis indicates we achieved the interim targets and sub targets for the following PIs: - (see Appendix 2).
· PSA 2 - Raising educational achievement of young people in care, the interim target was achieved which earns £127,160.
· PSA 3 – Maximising the contribution adoption can make (sub target with 30% weighting achieved earns £38,148.
· PSA 5 – Reducing deaths / injuries on the road (sub target with 20% weighting achieved earns £25,432.
· PSA 10 - Improving the street scene in Ealing, the interim target was achieved which earns £127,160.
The total interim reward grant earned is £317,900. The maximum available, had all 12 interim targets been met, was £1,525,920. The grant will be split 50% for revenue and 50% for capital expenditure.
3.3. Main reward grant
The main grant will be paid in two equal instalments in the two financial years following the end of the PSA. At Ealing, the PSA ends in March 2005. Therefore, the instalments would be due 2005/06 and 2006/07.
The Performance team is presently meeting with managers to discuss the likelihood of meeting the PSA targets. Based on the reported mid year performance, it is predicted that we will achieve the 60% enhancement target for at least 7 of the PSA PIs. These being:-
· PSA 2 - Raising educational achievement of young people in care.
· PSA 3 - Maximising the contribution adoption can make to providing permanent families for children.
· PSA 4 - Crime - Reducing domestic burglary.
· PSA 5- Road Safety - Reducing deaths and injuries on the roads of Ealing.
· PSA 8 - Increasing the take-up of library services by minority ethnic groups.
· PSA 10 - Street Scene - Improving the street scene throughout Ealing.
· PSA 11 – Increase physical activity.
Should we achieve the minimum 60% of the stretch for each of the above PIs, it will be worth a maximum total of £2,670,360, less the interim payments received in 2004/05. However, 100% achievement will be worth a maximum total of £4,450,600, less the interim payments. The grant will be split 50% for revenue and 50% for capital expenditure.
Sunday, 20 April 2008
So how do they get away with it?
34. There is, so far as the parties to this case are aware, no European jurisprudence questioning the principle of freeing for adoption, or indeed compulsory adoption generally. The United Kingdom is unusual amongst members of the Council of Europe in permitting the total severance of family ties without parental consent. (Professor Triseliotis thought that only Portugal and perhaps one other European country allowed this.) It is, of course, the most draconian interference with family life possible
News Release
27 June 2006
18/06
Clayton -v- Clayton: Summary of Judgment for Media
The Court of Appeal is today handing down its decision in the case of Clayton v Clayton. This may well have widespread repercussions for parents and children, in relation to the identification of children as having been the subject of court proceedings once those proceedings are over. Essentially, the decision concerns the balance between children’s right to privacy and their parents’ right to freedom of expression under the European Convention on Human Rights.
The Court of Appeal has decided that the prohibition from identifying children which section 97 of the Children Act 1989 provides only applies whilst the proceedings relating to the child in question are in progress. Once the proceedings have concluded, the protection given by the Act comes to an end, the entitlement to anonymity
The decision above means that once the court proceedings are over you are FREE to discuss your case with the press and anyone else you like even if it means that as a result you and/or your children may be identified as a consequence.
THEREFORE I NAME AND SHAME EALING SOCIAL SERVICES!!!
YOU STOLE MY CHILDREN
YOU FAILED BOTH MY CHILDREN AND I. WHILE YOU WERE BUSY STEALING MY CHILDREN FROM A LOVING MOTHER AND FAMILY A LITTLE GIRL UNDER YOUR CARE DIED IN A BATH WHEN YOU SHOULD HAVE USED POWERS TO SAVE HER!
YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO THE HUMAN RACE AND SO IS ALL THAT SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR CORUPTION!!!!!!
27 June 2006
18/06
Clayton -v- Clayton: Summary of Judgment for Media
The Court of Appeal is today handing down its decision in the case of Clayton v Clayton. This may well have widespread repercussions for parents and children, in relation to the identification of children as having been the subject of court proceedings once those proceedings are over. Essentially, the decision concerns the balance between children’s right to privacy and their parents’ right to freedom of expression under the European Convention on Human Rights.
The Court of Appeal has decided that the prohibition from identifying children which section 97 of the Children Act 1989 provides only applies whilst the proceedings relating to the child in question are in progress. Once the proceedings have concluded, the protection given by the Act comes to an end, the entitlement to anonymity
The decision above means that once the court proceedings are over you are FREE to discuss your case with the press and anyone else you like even if it means that as a result you and/or your children may be identified as a consequence.
THEREFORE I NAME AND SHAME EALING SOCIAL SERVICES!!!
YOU STOLE MY CHILDREN
YOU FAILED BOTH MY CHILDREN AND I. WHILE YOU WERE BUSY STEALING MY CHILDREN FROM A LOVING MOTHER AND FAMILY A LITTLE GIRL UNDER YOUR CARE DIED IN A BATH WHEN YOU SHOULD HAVE USED POWERS TO SAVE HER!
YOU ARE A DISGRACE TO THE HUMAN RACE AND SO IS ALL THAT SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR CORUPTION!!!!!!
Important questions that should be asked!
Here are 4 important questions that SHOULD be answered by social services or by family court judges but which have so far been systematically ignored !
1: - It must surely be the right of parents and anyone else in a democratic country wishing to complain against injustice to go to the media with details of everything that happened to them in the family court Most judges in family courts refuse leave to appeal and solicitors always back them up so the idea of appealing when leave has been denied is nearly always a "non starter". Parents are at present denied their democratic right to go to the media to get public and political support followed by possible reform ! How can this be justice?
2: - Harriet Harman,(minister of state, Department of constitutional affairs )said in Parliament "Last year something like 200 people were sent to prison by the family courts, which happens in complete privacy and secrecy."
Surely those who still deny these facts cannot believe she was lying to Parliament! How can imprisonment with no public process be justice?
3: -Extract from The Times, Aug 23 2007: “Emotional abuse” has no strict definition in British law. Yet it now accounts for an astounding 21 per cent of all children registered as needing protection, up from 14 per cent in 1997. Last year 6,700 children were put on the child protection register for emotional abuse, compared with only 2,600 for sexual abuse and 5,100 for physical abuse.
How can taking newborn babies for "risk of emotional abuse" possibly be justified when the effect is to punish parents and abuse their babies not for anything they have done but for something that some hired prophet thinks they might perhaps do in the future,How can this be justice?
4: -Any burglar facing a prison sentence of 6 months or more can demand a hearing before a jury so how can it be right or just that parents who risk losing their children for life to "forced adoption" are denied this option . Juries consider complicated medical evidence in cases such as murder, and compensation for injuries, also complicated tax laws in cases of fraud, and insider dealing. The simple decision whether a mother accused of risk of emotional abuse should keep her newborn baby or not would I think we must all agree be more likely to favour the mother if considered by a jury but records show that such cases nearly always favour the social services if decided by a judge. That is probably why juries are banned from the family courts but allowed to decide libel cases in other civil courts! To take a newborn baby from its mother and give it away for adoption by strangers is a far far worse punishment for her than any jail sentence as it condemns the mother to a life sentence and the baby to probable death later in life if it should require a kidney or bone marrow transplant or other medical attention in which a birth family member was needed but could not be located! How can this be justice?
The 4 obvious reforms would be:-
1;- Remove the gag from parents involved in family court proceedings
2:-Forbid judges in the family courts to imprison any parent without a public hearing.
3:-Abolish "risk" as a reason to remove children from a sane parent unless in addition to risk it can be clearly shown and proved that such children have already suffered significant physical harm.
4:-Any parents facing the possibility that their children could be removed for long term fostering or adoption without parental consent should have the right to demand that the final decision be made by a jury not a judge.Better still abolish forced adoption altogether !
Re K D [1998] 1 AC p.812 letter B Lord Templeman stated; ‘The best person to bring up a
child is the natural parent. It matters not whether the parent is wise or foolish, rich or
poor, educated or illiterate, provided the child’s moral and physical health are not
endangered. Public authorities cannot improve on nature
1: - It must surely be the right of parents and anyone else in a democratic country wishing to complain against injustice to go to the media with details of everything that happened to them in the family court Most judges in family courts refuse leave to appeal and solicitors always back them up so the idea of appealing when leave has been denied is nearly always a "non starter". Parents are at present denied their democratic right to go to the media to get public and political support followed by possible reform ! How can this be justice?
2: - Harriet Harman,(minister of state, Department of constitutional affairs )said in Parliament "Last year something like 200 people were sent to prison by the family courts, which happens in complete privacy and secrecy."
Surely those who still deny these facts cannot believe she was lying to Parliament! How can imprisonment with no public process be justice?
3: -Extract from The Times, Aug 23 2007: “Emotional abuse” has no strict definition in British law. Yet it now accounts for an astounding 21 per cent of all children registered as needing protection, up from 14 per cent in 1997. Last year 6,700 children were put on the child protection register for emotional abuse, compared with only 2,600 for sexual abuse and 5,100 for physical abuse.
How can taking newborn babies for "risk of emotional abuse" possibly be justified when the effect is to punish parents and abuse their babies not for anything they have done but for something that some hired prophet thinks they might perhaps do in the future,How can this be justice?
4: -Any burglar facing a prison sentence of 6 months or more can demand a hearing before a jury so how can it be right or just that parents who risk losing their children for life to "forced adoption" are denied this option . Juries consider complicated medical evidence in cases such as murder, and compensation for injuries, also complicated tax laws in cases of fraud, and insider dealing. The simple decision whether a mother accused of risk of emotional abuse should keep her newborn baby or not would I think we must all agree be more likely to favour the mother if considered by a jury but records show that such cases nearly always favour the social services if decided by a judge. That is probably why juries are banned from the family courts but allowed to decide libel cases in other civil courts! To take a newborn baby from its mother and give it away for adoption by strangers is a far far worse punishment for her than any jail sentence as it condemns the mother to a life sentence and the baby to probable death later in life if it should require a kidney or bone marrow transplant or other medical attention in which a birth family member was needed but could not be located! How can this be justice?
The 4 obvious reforms would be:-
1;- Remove the gag from parents involved in family court proceedings
2:-Forbid judges in the family courts to imprison any parent without a public hearing.
3:-Abolish "risk" as a reason to remove children from a sane parent unless in addition to risk it can be clearly shown and proved that such children have already suffered significant physical harm.
4:-Any parents facing the possibility that their children could be removed for long term fostering or adoption without parental consent should have the right to demand that the final decision be made by a jury not a judge.Better still abolish forced adoption altogether !
Re K D [1998] 1 AC p.812 letter B Lord Templeman stated; ‘The best person to bring up a
child is the natural parent. It matters not whether the parent is wise or foolish, rich or
poor, educated or illiterate, provided the child’s moral and physical health are not
endangered. Public authorities cannot improve on nature
my story
This is my blog dedicated to my five beautiful children and my experiences of forced adoption and neonatal death.
Let me explain my story. I have four boys and one girl. My three eldest boys were taken off me against my will and adopted because of government set adoption targets where local councils stood to be rewarded with large sums of money if they meet their targets. Targets put into force apparently to reduced the amount of difficult to place children left in foster care and children’s homes who would go from place to place children who had been abused in some way. This target system has been clearly abused and I am just one of the many families who this abuse of power and injustice has happened too. I must point out my children were never abused or put at risk by myself in any way shape or form. My papers say it was the likeyhood of emotional harm in long term thus because I had been in care myself and was in care when I had my first child this made me an easy target. My story starts like this.
I’m 27 now and I went into care at the age of 12 because I was deemed beyond my parents control because I had become a difficult child, I feel looking back I was having some form of mental breakdown - everything had just become to much for me to deal with and I started self harming. I learnt very quickly that being in care for me meant living out of black sacks and never really having anyone but myself to depend on but most of all never to enjoy anything or get close to anyone because as fast as you have it you lose it in a flash. I was very quickly getting around the uk in different homes, foster placements and secure units in all I was moved to 37 different placements in 5 years.
I also suffered a great deal in some of my placements.
At 12 years old I was placed in a adolescent unit which was a Monday to Friday placement young people went to respite homes or families at weekends but there was no place for me to go so I remained along with another girl. The unit was meant to be an open unit yet the doors were always locked and you were not allowed to leave.
I had no secure order nor was I subject to a mental heath section.
The unit was a place where everything had to be done via a meeting with staff and young people anybody could call the word meeting and you would have to go straight to the dinning room a sit in a circle. The person who called the meeting would have to explain why they called that meeting and end the meeting with meeting closed before you could leave.
The unit used a lot of medication to sedate young people if they felt there 'concerns' warranted medication.
one ex sample was a day a meeting was called over something I don’t really remember and a young person made a rude noise during the meeting, I was the youngest there and at 12 years old found this so very funny, straight after the meeting was closed a new one was opened where I was told they had concerns over my behaviour and I was to spend some time out in the exclusion room (a locked cell with just a bean bag and video camera on the wall watching me) I argued this and was told to take medication or be injected with a needle, being frightened I drank the orange and brown caps of medication and was left locked in this cell till the medication took effect.
confused and sleepy I was then approached by two staff who put there arms under my upper arms and dragged me up 4 flights of stairs leaving me on my bed to sleep the effects of the medication off.
This form of control and punishment happened to me often and for very minor offences.
Because this was a Monday to Friday placement there was no clothes washing faculties as parents and carers were expected to wash clothes on weekends while the young person was at home. There was no body to wash neither my clothes nor those of the other girl so we had to fend for our selves and find our own way of doing this task. We would fill a bath of water add shampoo and climb in the bath and stamp up and down on the clothes, we then placed them on the rads where it could take days for our clothes to dry enough to re wear.
another placement I was placed there twice during my time in care and on both times I was subjected to being tormented by one of the senior managers who would restrain me and tell me things such as my parents didn’t love me that’s why I was in care, I was fat and obese and would spend my life in and out of instusions, this would happen in the old secure unit which had been closed down and it would be just me and him locked in there as what was meant to be a key work session to help me address the reasons why I felt so bad I needed to harm myself. Again I had no secure order to keep me locked in a secure unit.
Another placement I was in, I along with another girl absconded from the unit to go to Notting hill carnival I was taken to a house lead to the basement by a man I never met before and was raped.
I arrived back at the unit in ripped clothing and very distressed. I was told off for going out without permission and ordered upstairs to have a bath and go to bed.
My attack was never spoken about again and I felt for along time that this was my own fault for going out. I was so dreadfully unhappy and alone stuck in a hell of a system I hated. another placement of mine was a foster placement, I had only been there a few days when it was agreed I could have a much needed clothing grant, I was so excited being one of four children on a run down council estate my mother god love her tried her best to provide but I never really got enough clothing as I needed. I showed my tiny piece of excitement to the lady and she was very harsh in telling me her children never received state clothing allowances and that it was wrong I should be made to earn pocket money and save to buy my own, I said getting a clothing grants was a small price to pay when you miss your mum and didn’t have your family with around you, she started to become cross and I was told to get out I told her in return I didn’t want to live in her home anyway that I was going to pack my bags and leave. she started crying and doing what I can only explain as a drama queen act, her husband came running into the room by which time I was on the stairs he picked up a broom a chased me to my room, frightened and upset I sat behind my bedroom door praying he wouldn’t smash his way in and beat me like my father once had done when I didn’t want to go to school. The following day I left this placement.
Another placement I where I was placed for over a year on a secure order because of my self harming.
I was placed and mixed with section 53 offenders murderers, sex offenders and arsonists one of them being told me stories of how she beheaded a dog, fried live hamsters and murdered a girl.
I was just a child in care not a disturbed criminal.
At 16 I fell pregnant I was admitted to hospital with chicken pox and that is where I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant! I was shocked but happy that I now had a chance to grow up and move on for the sake of this tiny baby there was no room in my life for self harm. I wanted to keep this baby.
during my stay in the hospital I was visited by my social worker and told that my baby would be born handicapped due to the chicken pox and I should have an abortion, I told my social worker that I would love my baby no matter how he or she was born. My social worker then told me if that was my choice she would not be helping me. I was discharged and moved to a children’s home where I continued having problems with my pregnancy and was in and out of hospital due to bleeding.
I lost a lot of blood and needed transfusions the problem was confirmed in a scan that I was bleeding from my placenta.
My social workers were informed but choose not to have contact with me by phone post or in person.
She was advised to find suitable accommodation as the home was not insured to keep me past 7 months. That deadline came and went and I was asked by staff where I wanted to go because they couldn’t keep me another day, I had no where to go except back home with my mum and siblings.
so 7 months pregnant with my pile of blacks sacks gone 9pm a staff member drives me to my mothers house and leaves me with my mum, no planning no nothing mum wasn’t expecting me there was no bed for me to sleep on.
My mum had to take my siblings and get a trolley push it to my grandmother’s house and ask to borrow a bed for me.
My family loaded it onto the trolley and pushed it all the way back home.
I continued to bleed and was in and out of hospital given more blood and at 36+5 days while already in hospital my waters broke. my social worker visited and sat on the end of my bed and inform me that social services were going to take my baby at birth and I would never see him again, I started to scream and midwifes asked her to leave the ward.
I asked my doctor was they really going to take my baby at birth she said quietly yes lowering her head, I asked how soon she said as soon as the cord had been cut I would not be allowed to hold my baby at all after trying for a painful 37 hours not to give birth my beautiful baby boy was born. After tearfully begging I was able to cuddle him and he was taken away. He had no court order or police protection order on him until he was 48 hours of age. At court social services said they wouldn’t allow contact with my baby as plans for him was adoption and that didn’t see it necessary for us to bond in anyway, they said if the court ruled I must have contact then it would only be safe to do so with the police and social workers present. It was pointed out by my legal team I had no criminal record nor was I a drug user or drinker and I had no history of harming children. The court finally agreed to limited supervised contact and I was able to hold my baby and feed him for the first time since his birth aged 3 weeks under the watchful eyes of social workers who watched my every move I made and documented every word or comment spoken to my baby. During the time my son child A as I'm only allowed to call him was place with a foster carer who abused him by smashing his head of a coffee table (witnessed and reported by a visitor in the carer’s house to social services). My baby was later brought to a contact session with a bump on his head when questioned I was told he banged it on the coffee table trying to crawl. My baby never crawled during my contact and I expressed my concerns. Another contact my baby was brought in by the foster carer clearly having difficulties breathing, I asked what was wrong with my baby and was told he had a cold! I said this wasn’t just a cold my baby needed urgent medical attention, with that the foster carer informed me he had seen the doctor the day before and was told it was a cold which would pass in a few days. She then handed us over to the supervising social worker and made her excuses to leave. Still unhappy and very concerned I told the social worker that I was happy for my contact to be cancelled but this baby needs a hospital and now! I was told no so I threatened to phone an ambulance myself following this comment the social worker agreed to us taking the baby to hospital. On arrival at the hospital my baby was rushed straight into resuscitation and given oxygen therapy. The nurse then removed his nappy to find baby A had nappy rash so badly his bottom was infected with blisters. It didn’t take an expert to tell me baby A had been left in long periods in wet soiled nappies but due to my limited contact this was not something I was able to pick up on. Baby A was kept in hospital for 13 days I stayed by his side alone day and night no foster carer or social worker visited at any time. Clothes and toys were provided by my family. Despite my strong protests baby A was discharged back to the care of the same foster carer. This broke my heart because I now knew baby A was not being cared for in the right way. 9 days later baby A was back in hospital with a life threatening form of meningitis again baby A had no visits clothes or toy brought by any social worker or foster carer. It was me and my family left to be by baby A’s side willing him to live and get better. Baby A was by now just 6 months old. After almost 3 weeks baby A had fought his way back with lots of love and was ready for discharge. I done everything I could to prevent him being returned to that foster carer but it wasn’t enough and he was returned.
A few weeks later I was informed baby A had been removed from his foster placement and placed with another foster carer because of abuse he had suffered at the hands of the foster carer. Social service verbally said sorry but this wasn’t and is not enough to make up for the suffering this defenceless baby suffered. The foster carer I was told by a social worker had been using drugs allowing other non approved people to ‘look after’ him and there had been no cot found in the house only a playpen used as a bed, the foster carer had her own children removed and I was told she would never be allowed to foster in the uk again. (She also had her children placed back with her after a period of time). Words cannot explain how I feel about this so I’m not going to try.
After along court battle I lost my son when the high court took my parental responabitly away from me and agreed to my son to be adopted on the grounds I withheld my consent unreasonably and there was a likeyhood to my child suffering from emotional harm in the long term due to my own past history. (How dare them!)
Aged 19 I had another child, but because my first born had been removed and adopted this child was removed at birth, and later adopted I have never been alone in a room with this baby ever! (What a sad thing to have to say).
Aged 21 I try to live my life and I’m pregnant and guess what? social services have concerns because of my past, although my baby was not removed at birth we had to go into a mother and baby foster placement together for an assessment the foster placement that started well broke down when I fell out with the foster carer who told social workers she didn’t want me in her home anymore as she felt it was effecting her relationship with her boyfriend who lived next door and because she couldn’t put me to bed at 7pm like her other foster children they never got to spend time together, (arr poor lady once again another credit to foster carers in our local council). The placement was becoming hard to bare she would removed clothes of my babies from his cupboard saying they were what she brought! Lies I had and still have the receipts she rationed baby C’s baby milk something yes she did buy as part of her duty towards towards him and she made it clear we was not welcome by refusing us entry to anywhere other than our bedroom, kitchen and bathroom. I begged social services to help move us some place else yet they didn’t care, what makes this worse is yet again a child of mine was suffering by the hands of a system meant to protect and safe guard children. The straw that broke the camels back was when she slammed a glass door shut in my face while holding a 3 month old baby I cherished so much I had no choice when social services would not help me and move me that night then to remove my child from a another crazy foster carer to protect him from harm.
Of course running away with him played into the hands of social services and this child ended up being adopted.
Later I became pregnant again sadly Tobias who was 6 days old died in my arms from necrotizing enterocolitis, a bowel problem in premature and newborn babies from my understanding of this it is not fully understood why nec occurs but its thought to be where the bowel is too immature to deal with digesting milk (I stand to be corrected if I’m wrong). Tobias was my brave angel six short days he came to stay so dearly loved yet unfairly taken away. A year later I gave birth to Tanesha who found heaven before life could begin her big brother waiting for his princess. Tanesha was still born at 24 weeks she had been breech sadly she became stuck and her little body just couldn’t cope with the stress of this. I say god took my angels so social services couldn’t.
I was blessed with five beautiful children each one of them loved and cherished so dearly, so very much wanted, each one that touched not only my hearts but those of my family and closest friends I will never forget them nor will I forgive those who directly caused my babies harm. Brokenfootprints is the path I walk now because without my angels my footprints will never be the same.
Some people reading this will say there is no smoke without fire if that is you please visit www.fassit.co.uk and www.forced-adoption.com also if you are a parent suffering with problems with social services and your children please also go to these sites trust me there really are people on your side.
Let me explain my story. I have four boys and one girl. My three eldest boys were taken off me against my will and adopted because of government set adoption targets where local councils stood to be rewarded with large sums of money if they meet their targets. Targets put into force apparently to reduced the amount of difficult to place children left in foster care and children’s homes who would go from place to place children who had been abused in some way. This target system has been clearly abused and I am just one of the many families who this abuse of power and injustice has happened too. I must point out my children were never abused or put at risk by myself in any way shape or form. My papers say it was the likeyhood of emotional harm in long term thus because I had been in care myself and was in care when I had my first child this made me an easy target. My story starts like this.
I’m 27 now and I went into care at the age of 12 because I was deemed beyond my parents control because I had become a difficult child, I feel looking back I was having some form of mental breakdown - everything had just become to much for me to deal with and I started self harming. I learnt very quickly that being in care for me meant living out of black sacks and never really having anyone but myself to depend on but most of all never to enjoy anything or get close to anyone because as fast as you have it you lose it in a flash. I was very quickly getting around the uk in different homes, foster placements and secure units in all I was moved to 37 different placements in 5 years.
I also suffered a great deal in some of my placements.
At 12 years old I was placed in a adolescent unit which was a Monday to Friday placement young people went to respite homes or families at weekends but there was no place for me to go so I remained along with another girl. The unit was meant to be an open unit yet the doors were always locked and you were not allowed to leave.
I had no secure order nor was I subject to a mental heath section.
The unit was a place where everything had to be done via a meeting with staff and young people anybody could call the word meeting and you would have to go straight to the dinning room a sit in a circle. The person who called the meeting would have to explain why they called that meeting and end the meeting with meeting closed before you could leave.
The unit used a lot of medication to sedate young people if they felt there 'concerns' warranted medication.
one ex sample was a day a meeting was called over something I don’t really remember and a young person made a rude noise during the meeting, I was the youngest there and at 12 years old found this so very funny, straight after the meeting was closed a new one was opened where I was told they had concerns over my behaviour and I was to spend some time out in the exclusion room (a locked cell with just a bean bag and video camera on the wall watching me) I argued this and was told to take medication or be injected with a needle, being frightened I drank the orange and brown caps of medication and was left locked in this cell till the medication took effect.
confused and sleepy I was then approached by two staff who put there arms under my upper arms and dragged me up 4 flights of stairs leaving me on my bed to sleep the effects of the medication off.
This form of control and punishment happened to me often and for very minor offences.
Because this was a Monday to Friday placement there was no clothes washing faculties as parents and carers were expected to wash clothes on weekends while the young person was at home. There was no body to wash neither my clothes nor those of the other girl so we had to fend for our selves and find our own way of doing this task. We would fill a bath of water add shampoo and climb in the bath and stamp up and down on the clothes, we then placed them on the rads where it could take days for our clothes to dry enough to re wear.
another placement I was placed there twice during my time in care and on both times I was subjected to being tormented by one of the senior managers who would restrain me and tell me things such as my parents didn’t love me that’s why I was in care, I was fat and obese and would spend my life in and out of instusions, this would happen in the old secure unit which had been closed down and it would be just me and him locked in there as what was meant to be a key work session to help me address the reasons why I felt so bad I needed to harm myself. Again I had no secure order to keep me locked in a secure unit.
Another placement I was in, I along with another girl absconded from the unit to go to Notting hill carnival I was taken to a house lead to the basement by a man I never met before and was raped.
I arrived back at the unit in ripped clothing and very distressed. I was told off for going out without permission and ordered upstairs to have a bath and go to bed.
My attack was never spoken about again and I felt for along time that this was my own fault for going out. I was so dreadfully unhappy and alone stuck in a hell of a system I hated. another placement of mine was a foster placement, I had only been there a few days when it was agreed I could have a much needed clothing grant, I was so excited being one of four children on a run down council estate my mother god love her tried her best to provide but I never really got enough clothing as I needed. I showed my tiny piece of excitement to the lady and she was very harsh in telling me her children never received state clothing allowances and that it was wrong I should be made to earn pocket money and save to buy my own, I said getting a clothing grants was a small price to pay when you miss your mum and didn’t have your family with around you, she started to become cross and I was told to get out I told her in return I didn’t want to live in her home anyway that I was going to pack my bags and leave. she started crying and doing what I can only explain as a drama queen act, her husband came running into the room by which time I was on the stairs he picked up a broom a chased me to my room, frightened and upset I sat behind my bedroom door praying he wouldn’t smash his way in and beat me like my father once had done when I didn’t want to go to school. The following day I left this placement.
Another placement I where I was placed for over a year on a secure order because of my self harming.
I was placed and mixed with section 53 offenders murderers, sex offenders and arsonists one of them being told me stories of how she beheaded a dog, fried live hamsters and murdered a girl.
I was just a child in care not a disturbed criminal.
At 16 I fell pregnant I was admitted to hospital with chicken pox and that is where I found out I was 16 weeks pregnant! I was shocked but happy that I now had a chance to grow up and move on for the sake of this tiny baby there was no room in my life for self harm. I wanted to keep this baby.
during my stay in the hospital I was visited by my social worker and told that my baby would be born handicapped due to the chicken pox and I should have an abortion, I told my social worker that I would love my baby no matter how he or she was born. My social worker then told me if that was my choice she would not be helping me. I was discharged and moved to a children’s home where I continued having problems with my pregnancy and was in and out of hospital due to bleeding.
I lost a lot of blood and needed transfusions the problem was confirmed in a scan that I was bleeding from my placenta.
My social workers were informed but choose not to have contact with me by phone post or in person.
She was advised to find suitable accommodation as the home was not insured to keep me past 7 months. That deadline came and went and I was asked by staff where I wanted to go because they couldn’t keep me another day, I had no where to go except back home with my mum and siblings.
so 7 months pregnant with my pile of blacks sacks gone 9pm a staff member drives me to my mothers house and leaves me with my mum, no planning no nothing mum wasn’t expecting me there was no bed for me to sleep on.
My mum had to take my siblings and get a trolley push it to my grandmother’s house and ask to borrow a bed for me.
My family loaded it onto the trolley and pushed it all the way back home.
I continued to bleed and was in and out of hospital given more blood and at 36+5 days while already in hospital my waters broke. my social worker visited and sat on the end of my bed and inform me that social services were going to take my baby at birth and I would never see him again, I started to scream and midwifes asked her to leave the ward.
I asked my doctor was they really going to take my baby at birth she said quietly yes lowering her head, I asked how soon she said as soon as the cord had been cut I would not be allowed to hold my baby at all after trying for a painful 37 hours not to give birth my beautiful baby boy was born. After tearfully begging I was able to cuddle him and he was taken away. He had no court order or police protection order on him until he was 48 hours of age. At court social services said they wouldn’t allow contact with my baby as plans for him was adoption and that didn’t see it necessary for us to bond in anyway, they said if the court ruled I must have contact then it would only be safe to do so with the police and social workers present. It was pointed out by my legal team I had no criminal record nor was I a drug user or drinker and I had no history of harming children. The court finally agreed to limited supervised contact and I was able to hold my baby and feed him for the first time since his birth aged 3 weeks under the watchful eyes of social workers who watched my every move I made and documented every word or comment spoken to my baby. During the time my son child A as I'm only allowed to call him was place with a foster carer who abused him by smashing his head of a coffee table (witnessed and reported by a visitor in the carer’s house to social services). My baby was later brought to a contact session with a bump on his head when questioned I was told he banged it on the coffee table trying to crawl. My baby never crawled during my contact and I expressed my concerns. Another contact my baby was brought in by the foster carer clearly having difficulties breathing, I asked what was wrong with my baby and was told he had a cold! I said this wasn’t just a cold my baby needed urgent medical attention, with that the foster carer informed me he had seen the doctor the day before and was told it was a cold which would pass in a few days. She then handed us over to the supervising social worker and made her excuses to leave. Still unhappy and very concerned I told the social worker that I was happy for my contact to be cancelled but this baby needs a hospital and now! I was told no so I threatened to phone an ambulance myself following this comment the social worker agreed to us taking the baby to hospital. On arrival at the hospital my baby was rushed straight into resuscitation and given oxygen therapy. The nurse then removed his nappy to find baby A had nappy rash so badly his bottom was infected with blisters. It didn’t take an expert to tell me baby A had been left in long periods in wet soiled nappies but due to my limited contact this was not something I was able to pick up on. Baby A was kept in hospital for 13 days I stayed by his side alone day and night no foster carer or social worker visited at any time. Clothes and toys were provided by my family. Despite my strong protests baby A was discharged back to the care of the same foster carer. This broke my heart because I now knew baby A was not being cared for in the right way. 9 days later baby A was back in hospital with a life threatening form of meningitis again baby A had no visits clothes or toy brought by any social worker or foster carer. It was me and my family left to be by baby A’s side willing him to live and get better. Baby A was by now just 6 months old. After almost 3 weeks baby A had fought his way back with lots of love and was ready for discharge. I done everything I could to prevent him being returned to that foster carer but it wasn’t enough and he was returned.
A few weeks later I was informed baby A had been removed from his foster placement and placed with another foster carer because of abuse he had suffered at the hands of the foster carer. Social service verbally said sorry but this wasn’t and is not enough to make up for the suffering this defenceless baby suffered. The foster carer I was told by a social worker had been using drugs allowing other non approved people to ‘look after’ him and there had been no cot found in the house only a playpen used as a bed, the foster carer had her own children removed and I was told she would never be allowed to foster in the uk again. (She also had her children placed back with her after a period of time). Words cannot explain how I feel about this so I’m not going to try.
After along court battle I lost my son when the high court took my parental responabitly away from me and agreed to my son to be adopted on the grounds I withheld my consent unreasonably and there was a likeyhood to my child suffering from emotional harm in the long term due to my own past history. (How dare them!)
Aged 19 I had another child, but because my first born had been removed and adopted this child was removed at birth, and later adopted I have never been alone in a room with this baby ever! (What a sad thing to have to say).
Aged 21 I try to live my life and I’m pregnant and guess what? social services have concerns because of my past, although my baby was not removed at birth we had to go into a mother and baby foster placement together for an assessment the foster placement that started well broke down when I fell out with the foster carer who told social workers she didn’t want me in her home anymore as she felt it was effecting her relationship with her boyfriend who lived next door and because she couldn’t put me to bed at 7pm like her other foster children they never got to spend time together, (arr poor lady once again another credit to foster carers in our local council). The placement was becoming hard to bare she would removed clothes of my babies from his cupboard saying they were what she brought! Lies I had and still have the receipts she rationed baby C’s baby milk something yes she did buy as part of her duty towards towards him and she made it clear we was not welcome by refusing us entry to anywhere other than our bedroom, kitchen and bathroom. I begged social services to help move us some place else yet they didn’t care, what makes this worse is yet again a child of mine was suffering by the hands of a system meant to protect and safe guard children. The straw that broke the camels back was when she slammed a glass door shut in my face while holding a 3 month old baby I cherished so much I had no choice when social services would not help me and move me that night then to remove my child from a another crazy foster carer to protect him from harm.
Of course running away with him played into the hands of social services and this child ended up being adopted.
Later I became pregnant again sadly Tobias who was 6 days old died in my arms from necrotizing enterocolitis, a bowel problem in premature and newborn babies from my understanding of this it is not fully understood why nec occurs but its thought to be where the bowel is too immature to deal with digesting milk (I stand to be corrected if I’m wrong). Tobias was my brave angel six short days he came to stay so dearly loved yet unfairly taken away. A year later I gave birth to Tanesha who found heaven before life could begin her big brother waiting for his princess. Tanesha was still born at 24 weeks she had been breech sadly she became stuck and her little body just couldn’t cope with the stress of this. I say god took my angels so social services couldn’t.
I was blessed with five beautiful children each one of them loved and cherished so dearly, so very much wanted, each one that touched not only my hearts but those of my family and closest friends I will never forget them nor will I forgive those who directly caused my babies harm. Brokenfootprints is the path I walk now because without my angels my footprints will never be the same.
Some people reading this will say there is no smoke without fire if that is you please visit www.fassit.co.uk and www.forced-adoption.com also if you are a parent suffering with problems with social services and your children please also go to these sites trust me there really are people on your side.
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